” Illusion is also lived” , says the saying. And he is right, because a large part of the things that excite us are fed by our imagination and the expectations that we place on them, although they are not always met. It can happen to us with everything: from a trip, a party or a new restaurant, to the end of a game, a date, a romantic dinner… and, of course, sex. For this reason, although we must never lose hope , we must be clear that the higher our expectations, the less chance there will be that reality adjusts to them, and the greater the disappointment . So you have to adjust the scale and if in the end the result is not what you expected, relativize things. Experience helps, and attitude too.
In this post we point out some situations related to sex that may not turn out as expected . If it happens to you, or has happened to you, don’t worry, it’s more normal than you think! It is best to take things humorously and wait for a better opportunity .
The first time . You have a new partner and you don’t know when or how it’s going to happen, you’re really looking forward to it but you’re also worried that it won’t be perfect. In the end, it happens, but it’s not what you expected. If it has happened to you and the slump has entered you, calm down, you are not the first. If there is complicity and good communication, things can improve. As you get to know each other and there is more trust and intimacy, you will see it. Sometimes we set the bar very high, but what matters is that the relationship is worthwhile and also the willingness of both parties to make it work.
The morning after . Normally we imagine that it must be a special moment of intimacy, especially if the night has been great. But it is possible that the other person sleeps more than necessary, they have to leave quickly, they are not at the same point as you or they do not feel like having breakfast when they get up, so it is better not to “make many movies”. Smile, ask him if he wants a coffee, and improvise! Being natural is what usually works best.
Aphrodisiac dinner… failed . You may be excited to prepare a “romantic” dinner that ends up in the place you want to arrive, and that you spend a lot of time organizing all the preparations: place, menu, your outfit… But you have to be predisposed and receptive on both sides. The warm lights, the surroundings, the good food and the music help. But if it all looks too forced or your interest is unrequited, it won’t work. It is better to order something for dinner at home on the spur of the moment and leave a margin open to the possibility, than getting involved in preparing … read